This is an episode where Carrie comes to a realization, that she could never be like Samantha. Carrie has just started a sexual relationship with the Russian artist Alexander Petrovsky, which she just wants to keep light. By the end of the episode she's having to admit she's not cut out for just having a lover, and is too much a relationship person.
She googles him and finds that his past is long and filled with beautiful women.
The question of the week that Carrie asks is " When it comes to men, even when we try to keep it light how do we wind up in the dark?"
That has happened to me more then I want to admit. For those of you who are new to my Spudguns, I simply put pick the wrong men. I tend to get attached to guys when I shouldn't turning them into boyfriends when the should stay lovers.
Hell, I'm emotionally attached to
There is also a line in the show, where Carrie talks about how it is a medical/scientific fact that women produce chemicals that bind us emotionally to someone the first time we have sex with them. There is also a proven fact, not mentioned in the show but played with, that scent is a key factor to knowing who a suitable mate is. This episode has the four women standing over a perfume counter spraying each other with bad choices asking if this perfume is a good match for them. Speaking as someone with Hyposmia (the decreased ability to smell) the reference hit a nerve.
Confusion with love and lust might not be all in our heads after all. It might actually be in our environment.
But when it comes to sex, how can we break the cycle of getting in too deep? Should we even try? Is love the fall back plan or is it what we're designed to do.