Monday, February 28, 2011


The latest book I am reading for review is  The Case for Falling in Love by Mari Ruti, PhD.
I'm only a few chapters into it, but already it's got me thinking.    Which, any good book should have you doing, even if you disagree with it.   This case, I agree with it.

It is based (at lest the first bit that I've gotten to) on gender sameness/differences in how we react to desire.  As I said, I'm only a few chapters into the book, but already I'm seeing the proof in the pudding, so to speak.  As I am reminded of a few things, one being the book Love Spell by Phyllis Curott, and how the author was reminded that within us, we all have both a male and female divine that displays itself in how we balance ourselves.   And also, ironically an episode of Sex and the City in which one of the girls dates a man who is straight but acts gay because he's not afraid to be emotional.

This lead me to examine the male friends I've had in the last few years.  All very emotional guys.  Which is great, specially given the men I've dated and grew up with (they were all hard no emotions unable/unwilling to communicate stereotypical men)
This has also lead me to understand why I've been totally confused with the men in my life in the last few years.  The more evolved the guys have become, the less they seem to be able to sort out any relationship questions I have, because they have the same ones for me. 

I have to admit, there is only one of these male friends left in my life, as the others had issues that even I found to be too much.  (Seriously, a few of them didn't need a girl to bounce information/questions off of but a really good therapist... hopefully the one guy got a shrink and the other guy got into rehab)